“I think you’re a 7”

Picture: Sinfonia, gosupermodel user

Picture: Sinfonia, gosupermodel user

“Rate my face 1-10!”
“Hot or not?”

“How do I look?” That’s something most of us are interested in. Instead of just staring at the mirror, kids have come up with a much more efficient way of finding it out: They ask.

Across all social media, kids are posting selfies and asking others to rate their look. Friends tend to be friendly and praise the looks (“I love your dress!”, “Great haircut!”) but strangers can be horrifyingly blunt: “You look like a rat” or “Looking at you makes me wanna puke”.

These “rate me” posts are a hot topic. We at watAgame have been in dialog with several NGO’s about them. The kids are making a lot of these posts and most comments are nice. We don’t want to ban these posts in our products just because some commenters are being rude. Having said that, we understand that the negative comments can really upset the kid who posted the picture.

“If you can’t be nice, say nothing”

On Momio, we asked the users what they think of these posts. This comment compacts the general mood very well: ”If you can’t take criticism, you shouldn’t ask others to rate your picture. But then again, if you don’t have anything nice to say you shouldn’t comment at all.”

The kids have a lot of sympathy towards the ones that got bad comments: “I hate the people who leave bad comments. Think if someone wrote that to you! You would also be sad.”

Bad comments get reported fast. That allows us to react: We can delete the comments and tell the commenter that they shouldn’t write things like that to others. This way we can prevent the same person being rude to more people. Still, it is not going to change the fact that a kid is now miserable because they were called ugly.

We are balancing on a difficult line between allowing something very popular and knowing that some kids will get their feelings hurt. What is your take on this? Have you seen this kind of posts and what did you think of them?

About the author:

Silja Nielsen, Momio

Silja Nielsen is Head of Community and Safety at Momio. She has worked at the company since 2010. Silja has a master’s degree in Media Studies and is interested in privacy, online behaviour and online communities.