“I totally disagree! Now, let’s get some ice-cream.”

Momio, kids online and online disagreementsYou probably won’t hear that line in the majority of conversations, especially ones you read online. It’s a well known and perhaps slightly ridiculed fact that online everyone has a strong opinion about everything. Whether it’s the weather, politics or just a film review, there doesn’t seem to be a middle ground anymore. You either love it or hate it; it’s the best thing ever, or the worst. Nothing can be “just okay” and everyone has to say something about everything.

Let me get my flamethrower

Strong opinions turn into heated arguments and those can easily lead to flamewars. It’s a sad staple of internet forums and comment sections that even an interesting and valuable conversation can quickly dissolve into name calling and everyone being offended by everyone. I have a few friends who are normally sweet people, but when they turn their online discussion persona on, it’s difficult to have a normal conversation. They try to convince you about their points (nothing wrong there), but when you don’t agree, they release an epic poem sized tyrade and stop listening to your side of the story. Their truth is the only one that matters at that point.

It gets really old, really fast

The kids on Momio are theoretically aware of those issues and are pretty good at getting away from more “toxic” users. Sometimes they do fall into the trap of arguing for arguing sake, though. They often feel like they NEED to have an opinion in order to be noticed and get into “battles”. Thankfully, they remain friends with people – even if they disagree.

We have some tips that could help them and you avoid those exhausting moments:

  1. Say that you see the point, but you don’t agree.
  2. Stress “In my opinion” and say what you want to say.
  3. If that person ignores your points and plows on, end the conversation.

Easy as that. You don’t owe anything to people, who ignore your opinions. If they don’t want to listen to you, you really don’t have to listen to them. Having different opinions about things is normal. Can we all agree on that at least?

About the author:

Diana Cereniewicz, Momio

Diana Cereniewicz is a Polish Community Manager. She started working for us in June 2015 when Momio was launched in Poland. She has a master’s degree in English literature and language, and dabbles in translation and interpretation as well. She also does diverse online content creation and moderation.

Read a Q&A with Diana here!