Why is my kid being so unreasonable?

teenAs a Community Manager for Momio, I see a lot of what kids talk about these days. I communicate with a lot of kids and parents via support emails – and sometimes I feel like a middle-woman trying to explain the rules to kids, and explaining why kids act like they do to their parents while ensuring them not to worry.

In order to understand what these kids are going through, I often think back to the time I was their age. Life can still be messy at 25, but I can’t even begin to explain all the feelings I had when I was growing up. I have to admit, I have a lot of compassion for these kids. #BeenThereDoneThat. (If any kids/youngsters are reading this: IT GETS BETTER, I PROMISE!)

I remember being intensely in love, feeling awkward in my own growing body, hating how I blushed every time someone just looked at me, switching dramatically between being happy and sad throughout the whole day. Things just seemed boring and unfair. Life simply did not make sense. Why would I need to find the answers to my homework, when I could just copy the answers my best friend already found to be correct? Seriously, that was not effective business in my eyes.

I think it is important for us adults to look back once in a while, in order to learn to be more patient. Adults tend to have this glossy image of when they were young and life was easy. And maybe it was for you. But even though I grew up in an amazing area, went to a safe school, had incredible and supportive parents, were never bullied or had any issues with getting through school – my head was still a mess. I thank the universe every single day I won’t have to experience that kid/teenage drama ever again. I love how I can enjoy my work, a cup of coffee and drama-free life every single day. Adult life is pretty sweet if you ask me.

So even though your kid is acting out, trust me, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent, the kid doesn’t like you or that they’re spoiled. They’re just going through a phase, and it’s hard for them: No matter how good their life actually is, the feelings are still there. What we really should do, is try to help them get through it – be supportive. Ask them what is wrong, try to explain how this will become better with age and be patient.

This is something that helps me when I see kids acting ungrateful or unreasonable. I try to understand their perspective. So, dear amazing parents out there – you are all doing an fantastic job! But I think we all need a little reminder to be patient sometimes.

About the author:

Ingse Bergh Monsen, Momio

Ingse was the Community Manager for Momio in Nordics, and worked for Momio from 2014 to 2019. She has a Master’s degree in Service Management with a minor in Sustainable Business. Besides her field of education, her interests include exploring good business ethics, service management and exciting social media phenomena.

Read a Q&A with Ingse here!